Hate on me… i lied

Posted on 10/13/2018 Posted in Advice, Memoir, Musings, Photography, Random, Soul JournalTagged courage, defeat? is there such a thing?, journey, listening well, meaning of life, mental well-being, my promise garden, relationships, suicide, suicide awareness, this writing life, who am I7 Comments

What am i doing here this morning? Did i not say i was gone from WP? Well a thought entered my head after reading a post in a closed group i belong to on FB… and decided to share here as well.

So, what is the group? Survivors of Suicide. A group i did not sign up for but was rather pushed into. And i reside there eternally.

I am healthier today. Actually quite happy. It hurts to say i am happy. I wear my brother’s pain… my grays and blues. Back in black on sunny days. No hat can hide or sunglasses conceal my tears.

Regardless i have survived two suicides and countless hopes to die myself. What follows is my posting to the group this morning…

“At some point life becomes unbearable… my mother was miserable and trudged through life. Her desire to die was known growing up and affected us children, as much as if she had died. I started to desire death at 8 years old. Then my grandfather did die by suicide… gunshot to the head, two months before my wedding. My desire to die increased and my happy day was miserable… it rained as my dad drove me to the church. Then, a rainbow appeared as i got out of the car. A tinge of hope engulfed me. That sparkle flickered for years. Fast track to March 1 2008 and my brother died by suicide. I was still a broken girl with dashed dreams (moments of hope sprinkled in) and felt compelled to leave this earth too! I spent days staring out the kitchen window while holding a knife to my neck, ever gently scraping… singing a lullaby to myself. Oh! and the knotted ropes in my mind would magically turn into snakes, dance in my head while telling me peace came with death.

“Lies!!!” i screamed back.

Today? Ten years later and 51, I have never felt so alive!!! I do not think about the past… my environment has changed. I live in a new house, a new town/state, surrounded by beauty and inner peace… everything before today was all a nightmare.

(To everyone in the FB closed group i told them ‘So glad you all are here. Talking. Suicidal thoughts are a disease. A product of overgrown emotions that do not know to express themselves outward. I went to therapy for ten years… my escape was to pack my bags and get the hell out of hell… i stay in this group because i cannot leave my brother. I so wish he was here. He would be happy to know i made it out alive.

Hope this isnt too harsh. It was my reality for 50 years.’)

I am always available to listen to you too. promisegardens@att.net

Posted on 08/02/2018 Posted in PoetryTagged dreamscapes, forgiveness, listening well, love, suffering, suicide, this writing life, who am I4 Comments

not wanting anymore
i am running away
trashing the pain today

watching it ooze under
our rattling bones
spoke louder than thunder

the lightening bolts you choose
hardly lit my way
as i sank to your biting words

remember the disfigured
my only beating
happened to the tock of your watch

barely

Posted on 05/13/201805/13/2018 Posted in Musings, Photography, PoetryTagged anxiety, Boston, depression, Dogwood tree, dreamscapes, friendship, gratitude, happy me sad me, Happy Mother’s Day, journey, listening well, mental well-being, motherhood, never give up, one day at a time, positive vibes, suicide, this writing life, who am I3 Comments

Steff: Andie, you’re a bitch. (From “Pretty in Pink”)Bitchin’

Now
and only now,

after all this time

I
understand
how the other half of the world

lives.

Do I remember what it was like at the peak of my depression? Or my inability to leave the house ravished by anxiety? Barely. How fitting to turn half a century (March) and be over the suicide ideation battle. I think i won. I think.

Nobody ever promises a rose garden. But i do remember to smell the blossoms while bloomed. Grateful for my loving children…

Dogwood have no fragrance and adequately make up for the loss with an exuberant blanket of petals, stitched together to create a covering for hearts, souls and minds. Enjoy your bitchin’ Mother’s Day, the best way you can!!

Love, j 💗

Second time around

Posted on 05/10/201805/10/2018 Posted in Musings, Soul JournalTagged another writer's blog, anxiety, depression, dreamscapes, forgiveness, friendship, hope, journey, listening well, love, meaning of life, mental well-being, my promise garden, questions and answers, relationships, suffering, suicide, this writing life, who am I3 Comments

Chewing on Glass has done it again. What? Drug a deeply buried nugget inside me, up to the surface, in order for me to see the light! I am opening up the curtains!!! The difficulty will be to keep them open. I will try to remember nothing (good?) grows in the dark, unwatered and starved. (Thanks to Emotions of Life for giving me/you food for thought regarding good versus bad growth.)

All unbeknownst to Layne, I am grateful he stepped forward and shared this blog post. Today, i will scurry to sit and think and get some where with my brother’s suicide. This memory stuck in neutral needs to be eventually parked in order for me to move forward. What stands in my way? The screeching tires, the rubber worn, the honking ignored, the empty tank, the dirty windshield…

Finally, i may get a few answers. I will need to rake through powerful memories. I cannot be afraid of the truth. And perhaps i will find closure. Perhaps not. I cannot fear to face the sorrow. The truth as raw and ugly as it appears.

The questions remain… What happened? Is it possible to heal? Maybe i will figure this out. Maybe not. But i do hope my faith is restored.

suttee

Posted on 05/05/2018 Posted in PoetryTagged death, depression, dreamscapes, grief, listening well, lost, meaning of life, my promise garden, sacrifice, soul, suffering, suicide, this writing life, voice, who am I1 Comment

Afraid
to let you go
i twine the words
of complicated grief
there was no goodbye
never another hello

and then i made it worse
opened myself
wide
displayed before savage eyes
killed myself slowly
with little pride to show

flames shooting higher
than ever thought possible
i sold my soul to the devil
who paid a hefty price
to lick bitter tears shed for us
and consume his last meal.

Posted on 05/03/2018 Posted in PoetryTagged courage, death, dreamscapes, grace, grief, hope, listening well, meaning of life, philosophy, psychology, relationships, suicide, this writing life, voice5 Comments

I became trapped in my own selfish misery. I once held onto hope. Positioned as a shiny metal object, glistening in the sun, it promised better days. I prayed to it. Ran my fingers over the smooth surface. Worshiped the image broadcast back to my heart.

I learned that day about rust as tears flowed. Death approaches angrily, despite appearances. I wish i hadn’t fallen so hard. Knives are all too predictable. Perhaps there is the lesson. Learn all you can before you are trapped.

my name is lamb

Posted on 03/20/2018 Posted in PoetryTagged anxiety, death, depression, dreamscapes, Japanese Lanturne, listening well, meaning of life, muse, my promise garden, psychosis, suffering, suicide, this writing life, voice, who am I2 Comments

i
am going
to keep living
the other choice is
sacrifice myself for the greater
good

My Monhegan

Posted on 03/13/201803/13/2018 Posted in Art, Musings, Poetry, quotes, Soul Journal, travelTagged anxiety, defeat? is there such a thing?, depression, dissociation, dreamscapes, emerging artist, expressionism, forgiveness, friendship, grief, healing, hope, journey, listening well, mental well-being, Monhegan Island ME, my promise garden, psychosis, suffering, suicide, this writing life, who am I10 Comments

I am currently working on a painting My Monhegan, an island off the coast of Maine. Monhegan is a place that encompasses 95% of my spiritual thought while a mere 3 days and 2 nights were physically spent there. It amazes how much an impact the place had on me. A healing calm took me over and i only have to slip on those hiking shoes to feel the embrace around my soul.

At least the ones i have conquered.

In the meantime, while rushing from one idea to the next, for the past three days, i realized something important. I don’t hear the rattling noises in my mind. At least not as often as i use to and only when invited in. The loudness has abated with a new found courage. I have tamed the angry heart that broke and mended the fabric tears. The tears in my eyes have dried.

The scared child that cowered in the corner has found light. She has grown since last spoken to. The sex fiend has retreated and allowed a wholeness to take place. I convinced her sex is nothing compared to spiritual ecstasy. A spiritual relationship, with someone who can read my mind and play off my every mood, move and energy, is enticing. I have a few girlfriends like this. I have yet to make a pact with such a guy friend. I have a few in mind, but they don’t seem to understand the concept as i had envisioned they would. Such a collaboration is still open to anyone. Even long distance. I am open and my heart twirls in excitement to find such a guy. If such a person exists. 🤨

As if a light switch was flicked on and off, on and off, the hurt, which once overcame me, has now been overcome. The chaos inside has relented and been subdued.

I win! I won!
I run! I swim!
I fly away…

gone

Posted on 03/10/201803/09/2018 Posted in PoetryTagged anxiety, depression, dreamscapes, forgiveness, friendship, journey, listening well, mental well-being, psychosis, PTSD, suicide, this writing life9 Comments

depression
leaves behind
wasteland -where

no one wants to be around

the burning house
water scarce,
the world parched.

reach inside
those remaining bones
burnt answers -hidden

visions gone awry
buried by hands
of a savior.

Oh! how i need him now.

Who pleases me
as i answer
to the wrong world

you wrapped around my soul

gripped too tight
squeezing what was left of me
swirling down…

in scented letters -sent.

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Posted on 02/25/2018 Posted in PoetryTagged alone, anxiety, brotherly love, death, depression, dreamscapes, forgiveness, friendship, grief, holes, Japanese Lanturne, listening well, mental well-being, missing you, pushing forward, suicide, this writing life3 Comments

grief
you’ve made
me a hardened
criminal, afraid to let
go of my humanity, i
suffer.

borderline crossing

Tag: suicide

Hate on me… i lied

barely

Second time around

suttee

my name is lamb

My Monhegan

gone

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